I have determined if my bf and I break up (God PROHIBIT as I'm quite in love with him) I will not return to online dating but will give celibacy a shot. Dating after, say, 58 or 59 ISN'T worth the effort imo. Maybe 'cause eventually you're stuck with all these bitter, old, paranoid,hypocritical boomer men. I really don't know....Am acceptable with my isolation now. Crave it really (bf and I have a long distance relationship but just 72 miles). We are merely apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And intend to reside together sooner or later in the foreseeable future. So my dating experience can be best summed up by the old standard Just in Time". Listen to the Streisand variation circa 1965. Adult hookups near Waterford, Western Australia.
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I 've exactly the same observation. Andrew. For awhile I was amazed at women's profiles with their shopping list of demands (do not contact me if...you must be blah blah blah....""with no statement of what they have to offer. Surely a man can collect much about a female from reading her profile, and women in many cases are so inundated with responses from inferior matches that they become exasperated and begin to establish boundaries; yet for me this language implies an attitude of entitlement and self absorption, and suggests perhaps an assumption that she is the more desirable one in the deal. Maybe women are accustomed to being pursued. A more sensible mature woman will understand that relationships aren't just about her and her needs. Definitely guys can frequently act exactly the same style, merely wanting sex. I consider the deeper truth is the fact that many folks just blunder automatically into relationships, compelled by their badly understood desires, understanding neither themselves or what they want from a relationship.
Debby, you're talking rot as far as I'm concerned. I'm 62 and let me tell you, I Have had nights" with women 20-30 years younger and they don't even ask what I do for a job. Sure the long term prospects aren't great with a much younger girl. But in my experience a lot of much younger women go for me. They say I am a silver fox and fine lol - Sorry, but as much as youwant to consider it is about a cynical cash grab, I need to inform you we old guys, like some older women entice the opposite sex. Sadly, a lot of people do not attract the opposite sex. nature is unkind.
Men over 45 do have more choices regarding dating. However there are ways around this. First, a girl has to expressly state what she offers a guy (that he needs) in the context of dating and relationships. I have read tens of thousands of female profiles (35-55 years old) and virtually none of them really say what they provide a guy. Generally, it's a listing of demands and choices. This really is not good marketing. A lady must be able to answer the question What do I provide a man that he desires?" If she does not understand, (or is offended by the question) she's not ready for dating.
Kathleen, I am an older guy and many women on line in my age group make out they aren't interested in the younger men. But of course they're. It's just that all the younger men approaching mature women are mostly, looking for what they consider to be the quickest method to get easy sex. They simply show interest in men their own age when the supply of younger guys dries up, or the guys start to lose interest in them. It's insulting to me. And that is why I'm not interested in the women, my age who approach me.
I get what you're saying. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people tried to assure me that I was a grab. And I still matter I should be - am tall, trim, seem youthful for 48, run my own successful firm, understand just how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic area (Alaska). As a result I'm quite active so online dating looked like the solution. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the amount of women who've written back and no genuine dates. I picked women in my own date range and attractiveness range. Just to check I wrote to fairly older women and less appealing than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped nearly every woman. Tried all kinds of graphics. Nothing. When I talk to my female friends they say they're inundated. The only dates I've had, 2, were from old pals who both told me they'd been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and rarely return my calls. At Meetups women appear interested however they don't respond. Simply don't recognize this, it is as if they expect me to pursue them and I am unwilling to do that because the two times I did that when my marriage was souring permanently alienated good pals. Really out to sea on all of this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years past.
I feel like I 'm aging out" of internet dating. I have found after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the reply I get on has dropped to almost nothing. It is as though going from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life. I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The potential matches the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those guys want, (typically 35-50) I frequently move past them, knowing I can't compete with women in their desirable range, even though many of those guys are as much as 5-8 years older than me! In other words, knowingly sends me matches which are probably not realistic for me to pursue. When I have emailed a number of these guys, I don't hear back. I'm guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and likely read no further. Even if I am within their desirable range, I still do not get much of a response. I assume the reason behind this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they've a chance with the 45 year old model of me? If their first wife was their age, like a college love or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer version, so to speak. Our culture supports this. Waterford, WA Adult Hookups. It's frustrating, as well as depressing and more than a little humiliating. It's the built-in folly of online websites: you are just defined by your actual age, in bold type right next to your user name.
One more thing. I'd like to ask all my middleaged online dating male and female compatriots a favor. Please, let us rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, sexy, play-free, and easygoing. And these, let us omit these also: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I loathe talking about myself, but..." and all derivatives of "my friends/mom/ex/kids tell me that..I'm a glass-half-full optimist, who's easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I believe that if we can all really agree to clean up our profiles then perhaps, just maybe, we can find some common ground and get back to the work of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).
Stop Using Your Profile to Complain about Men. Several men noted how many women's online dating profiles are comprised primarily of complaints about guys - either their profiles, or their behavior in general. I agree with the guys on this one. There isn't any point in using your profile narrative as a soapbox for your negative perception of all single, middle-aged men (for heaven's sakes utilize a site for that). So while I'm sure there are men (and women) out there who are logged on and acting badly, I believe that women must take responsibility for their own choices. We can maintain our favorable expectations while at the exact same time heeding our inner voice that warns us when something isn't quite appropriate. Much too often some women are led not by common sense, but by wishful thinking as well as a want to be nice and not appear impolite, so we discount the large, red flashing warning lights raging in our heads and continue without caution. I once met a girl who expressed great sadness that she just couldn't trust the guys she met online. She then proceeded to tell me a story about any of these men who spent days (yes, days) wooing her via email. He told her stories of his limitless prosperity and his links to powerful people all around the globe. She slept with him on the 2nd date (after he assured to whisk her off to a private island that next weekend). But that's not all. She also gave him all of her identifying information when he told her that she needed to be vetted by "his folks." And guess what? Yep! Her identity was stolen. Complaining about how she could just no longer trust guys she met online was a bit like whining about how she could simply no longer trust Nigerian princes. Adult Hookups near Waterford Western Australia.
Tone Down the Boudoir Photos. You say you want a good guy who honors you as a human being and is interested in having a serious relationship with you, then you post photos of yourself next to your bed (or on your own bed, or in your bed, or in somebody else's bed). And if you aren't posting photographs of yourself next to your bed, (or on your bed, or in your bed), you're posting photographs with far too much cleavage. Now, that is completely great - I don't have any issue at all with this, and I'm sure many men do not have a problem either - but what some guys do have a problem with is when women post said super-hot glamour shots and then whine to their buddies, or make statements on their profiles about how all guys are dogs and just need them for sex. And while we're on the subject of complaint-filled profiles...
Athletic and Toned Means, well, Athletic and Toned. I despise the body descriptors as much as you do (well, except for you size 0 women out there, you almost certainly adore them), but I do believe it's significant that we at least strive for truthfulness. The word on the street is the fact that far too many women out there in the internet dating world are utilizing the "fit and toned" descriptor in reference to their "about average" bodies (this criticism applies to men also, of course). The matter is, there actually is not anything wrong with having an around typical (or curvy) body thus let us take the pressure off ourselves and heed the advice of Amy Schuler, and recognize once and for all that a little meat on our bones isn't going to kill us, and it isn't going to drive away the good guys either (correct, good guys?).
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