I have determined if my bf and I break up (God FORBID as I'm quite in love with him) I won't return to online dating but will give celibacy a shot. Relationship after, say, 58 or 59 is NOT worth the attempt imo. Maybe 'cause eventually you're stuck with all these bitter, old, paranoid,hypocritical boomer guys. I actually don't know....Am acceptable with my isolation now. Crave it actually (bf and I 've a long distance relationship but just 72 miles). We are only apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And plan to reside together sooner or later later on. So my dating experience can be best summed up by the old standard Just in Time". Listen to the Streisand variation circa 1965. Free Hook Ups nearby Nundah Queensland.
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I 've the same observation. Andrew. For awhile I was amazed at women's profiles with their shopping list of demands (do not contact me if...you must be blah blah blah....""with no statement of what they have to offer. Definitely a man can collect much about a female from reading her profile, and women are often so inundated with responses from poor matches that they become exasperated and start to establish borders; yet for me this language indicates an attitude of entitlement and self-absorption, and suggests perhaps an assumption that she's the more desirable one in the deal. Maybe women are accustomed to being pursued. A more thoughtful mature girl will recognize that relationships are not just about her and her needs. Definitely men can frequently behave exactly the same manner, just wanting sex. I believe the more profound truth is that most people merely blunder automatically into relationships, compelled by their ill understood desires, knowing neither themselves or what they want from a connection.
Debby, you're discussing rot as far as I am concerned. I am 62 and let me tell you, I've had nights" with women 20-30 years younger and they do not even ask what I do for a job. Sure the long term prospects are not good with a considerably younger woman. But in my experience a great deal of much younger women go for me. They say I'm a silver fox and attractive lol - Sorry, but as much as you'd like to consider it's about a cynical money grab, I need to inform you we mature guys, like some mature women entice the opposite sex. Regrettably, many people do not attract the opposite sex. nature is unkind.
Men over 45 do have more alternatives regarding dating. But there are certain ways around this. First, a girl has to expressly state what she offers a man (that he wants) in the context of dating and relationships. I've read tens of thousands of female profiles (35-55 years old) and practically none of them really state what they provide a guy. Usually, it is a record of demands and preferences. This is not great advertising. A lady should have the ability to answer the question What do I provide a guy he desires?" If she doesn't know, (or is offended by the question) she is not prepared for dating.
Kathleen, I'm an older man and many women on line in my age group make out they aren't interested in the younger guys. But of course they are. It's merely that all the younger guys approaching old women are mostly, looking for what they consider to be the quickest way to get easy sex. They just reveal interest in guys their very own age when the supply of younger guys dries up, or the men begin to lose interest in them. It's insulting to me. And that's the reason why I'm not interested in the women, my age who approach me.
I get what you are saying. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people attempted to assure me that I was a grab. And I still matter I should be - am tall, clean-cut, seem young for 48, run my own successful company, know just how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic location (Alaska). As a result I'm very busy so online dating looked like the solution. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the number of women who have written back and no genuine dates. I picked women in my date range and attractiveness range. Just to check I wrote to fairly old women and less attractive than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped virtually every woman. Tried all sorts of images. Nothing. while I talk to my female friends they say they are inundated. The only dates I have had, 2, were from old pals who both told me they had been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and rarely return my calls. At Meetups women look interested however they don't respond. Simply don't understand this, it is as if they expect me to pursue them and I 'm unwilling to do that because the two times I did that when my marriage was souring permanently alienated good friends. Really out to sea on all this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years past.
I feel like I 'm aging out" of internet dating. I have seen after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the reply I get on has dropped to almost nothing. It's as though going from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some kind of death-knell for a dating life. I initiate contact with guys in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The potential matches the website sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look in the age-range that those guys want, (generally 35-50) I often go past them, understanding I can not compete with women in their desirable range, even though many of those guys are as much as 5-8 years older than me! In other words, intentionally sends me matches that are probably not realistic for me to pursue. When I've emailed some of those men, I never hear back. I am guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further. Even if I am within their desired range, I still do not get much of a reply. I suppose the reason for this is they can get younger women to react to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year old version of me? If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer version, so to speak. Our culture supports this. Nundah, QLD Free Hook Ups. It's frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating. It's the built in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your actual age, in bold type right next to your user name.
One more thing. I would like to ask all of my middle aged online dating male and female compatriots a favor. Please, let's rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, lusty, drama-free, and easygoing. And these, let us omit these also: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I hate talking about myself, but..." and all derivatives of "my friends/mother/ex/children tell me that..I'm a glass-half-full optimist, who's easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I think that if we can all agree to clean up our profiles then maybe, just maybe, we can locate some common ground and get back to the business of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).
Cease Using Your Profile to Complain about Men. Several men noticed how many women's online dating profiles are contained mostly of grievances about guys - either their profiles, or their behavior in general. I agree with the men on this one. There is no point in using your profile story as a soapbox for your negative perception of all single, middle-aged men (for heaven's sakes make use of a blog for that). So while I am sure there are guys (and women) out there who are logged on and acting badly, I really believe that women must take responsibility for their own selections. We can keep our favorable expectations while at the same time heeding our inner voice that warns us when something isn't quite appropriate. Far too frequently some women are led not by common sense, but by wishful thinking as well as a desire to be fine and not seem rude, so we ignore the large, red flashing warning lights raging in our heads and proceed without caution. I once met a woman who expressed great dismay that she simply couldn't trust the men she met online. She then proceeded to tell me a story about one of these guys who spent days (yes, days) wooing her via e-mail. He told her stories of his limitless prosperity and his connections to powerful individuals all over the world. She slept with him on the 2nd date (after he assured to whisk her away to a private island that next weekend). But that is not all. She also gave him all of her identifying information when he told her that she needed to be checked by "his folks." And guess what? Yep! Her identity was stolen. Complaining about how she could only no longer trust men she met online was a bit like whining about how she could just no longer trust Nigerian princes. Free hook ups nearby Nundah, Queensland.
Tone Down the Boudoir Shots. You say you desire a quality man who honors you as a human being and is interested in having a serious relationship with you, after which you post pictures of yourself next to your bed (or on your bed, or in your bed, or in someone else's bed). And if you're not posting pictures of yourself next to your bed, (or on your bed, or in your bed), you are posting pictures with way too much cleavage. Now, that's completely excellent - I have no difficulty at all with this, and I'm sure many men don't have a problem either - but what some guys do have a problem with is when women post said super-sexy glamour shots and then whine to their friends, or make statements on their profiles about how all guys are dogs and just need them for sex. And while we're on the topic of complaint-filled profiles...
Athletic and Toned Means, well, Athletic and Toned. I hate the body descriptors as much as you do (well, except for you size 0 women out there, you almost certainly adore them), but I do believe it's significant that we at least strive for honesty. The word on the street is the fact that way too many women out there in the online dating world are using the "fit and toned" descriptor in reference to their "about average" bodies (this complaint applies to guys as well, of course). The thing is, there actually isn't anything wrong with having an about typical (or curvy) body thus let's take the pressure off ourselves and heed the advice of Amy Schuler, and recognize once and for all that a little meat on our bones is not going to kill us, and it isn't going to drive away the good guys either (right, good guys?).
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