I've decided if my bf and I break up (God PROHIBIT as I am quite in love with him) I won't return to online dating but will give celibacy a shot. Relationship after, say, 58 or 59 is NOT worth the attempt imo. Maybe 'cause finally you're stuck with all these bitter, old, paranoid,hypocritical boomer men. I do not know....Am acceptable with my isolation now. Crave it really (bf and I have a long distance relationship but just 72 miles). We're only apart about 4 nights before reunited though. And plan to reside together sooner or later in the future. So my dating experience can be best summed up by the old standard Just in Time". Listen to the Streisand version circa 1965. Free Hook Ups near Richmond, Victoria.
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I have exactly the same observation. Andrew. For awhile I was amazed at women's profiles with their shopping list of demands (don't contact me if...you must be blah blah blah....""with no statement of what they have to offer. Surely a guy can assemble much about a woman from reading her profile, and women are often so inundated with replies from inferior matches they become exasperated and begin to establish borders; yet for me this language implies an attitude of entitlement and self absorption, and indicates maybe an assumption that she is the more desirable one in the deal. Perhaps women are accustomed to being pursued. A more considerate mature woman will understand that relationships are not just about her and her needs. Certainly guys can frequently behave exactly the same way, just wanting sex. I believe the more profound truth is the fact that many folks just blunder unconsciously into relationships, compelled by their ill understood desires, knowing neither themselves or what they need from a relationship.
Debby, you are discussing rot as far as I'm concerned. I am 62 and let me tell you, I've had nights" with women 20-30 years younger and they do not even ask what I do for a job. Sure the long term prospects aren't good with a considerably younger girl. But in my experience a lot of much younger women go for me. They say I am a silver fox and handsome lol - Sorry, but as much as you'd like to believe it is all about a cynical cash grab, I have to inform you we elderly men, like some old women entice the opposite sex. Sadly, many don't entice the opposite sex. nature is cruel.
Men over 45 do have more options regarding dating. But there are certain ways around this. First, a girl has to specifically say what she offers a guy (that he wants) in the context of dating and relationships. I've read tens of thousands of female profiles (35-55 years old) and nearly not one of them actually say what they provide a man. Normally, it is a listing of demands and preferences. This is not great marketing. A woman must be able to answer the question What do I provide a guy he desires?" If she doesn't understand, (or is offended by the question) she's not ready for dating.
Kathleen, I am an old guy and most women on line in my age group make out they aren't interested in the younger guys. But of course they're. It's just that all the younger men approaching senior women are mostly, looking for what they consider to be the fastest method to get easy sex. They only show interest in men their particular age when the supply of younger guys dries up, or the men start to lose interest in them. It's insulting to me. And that's the reason why I'm not interested in the women, my age who approach me.
I get what you are saying. When my marriage fell apart a year ago people tried to reassure me that I was a catch. And I still matter I should be - am tall, trim, look youthful for 48, run my own successful company, understand just how to dance, am a community leader with environmental education and in my profession, lecture at university, write, from an exotic area (Alaska). As a result I'm quite busy so online dating looked like the answer. But in fact in six I can count on one hand the amount of women who have written back and no actual dates. I picked women in my date range and attractiveness range. Merely to check I wrote to rather elderly women and not as attractive than myself. Nothing. Got on Tinder and swiped nearly every woman. Attempted all kinds of pictures. Nothing. When I speak to my female friends they say they're inundated. The only dates I've had, 2, were from old friends who both told me they'd been fantasising about me for years but then they left it at that and infrequently return my calls. At Meetups women appear interested but they do not answer. Simply do not understand this, it's as if they expect me to pursue them and I am unwilling to do that because the two times I did that when my marriage was souring forever alienated good pals. Really out to sea on all this - so much has changed since I was last dating 26 years past.
I feel like I 'm aging out" of internet dating. I've found after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the answer I get on has dropped to virtually nothing. It is as though going from the early 50s to the mid 50s is some sort of death-knell for a dating life. I begin contact with guys in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself. The possible matches the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look in the age-range that those guys want, (normally 35-50) I regularly go past them, understanding I can not compete with women in their desirable range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me! In other words, intentionally sends me matches which are likely not realistic for me to pursue. When I have emailed a number of those men, I never hear back. I'm guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further. Even if I am within their desirable range, I still don't get much of a response. I assume the reason behind this is they can get younger women to react to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year old model of me? If their first wife was their age, like a college honey or whatever, they likely feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. Our culture encourages this. Richmond, VIC Free Hook Ups. It's frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating. It's the builtin folly of online websites: you are simply defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.
One more thing. I'd like to ask all my middle aged online dating male and female compatriots a party favor. Please, let us rid our profiles of these overused phrases once and for all: glass-half-full, sexy, drama-free, and easygoing. And these, let us omit these too: "I look 10 years younger than I am," "I hate talking about myself, but..." and all derivatives of "my friends/mom/ex/children tell me that..I'm a glass-half-full optimist, who's easy going and looks 10 years younger than I am." I think that if we can all agree to clean up our profiles then perhaps, just maybe, we can locate some common ground and get back to the business of falling in love (or at least having fun trying).
Cease Using Your Profile to Complain about Men. Several guys noticed how many women's online dating profiles are contained mainly of grievances about men - either their profiles, or their conduct in general. I agree with the men on this one. There's no point in using your profile story as a soapbox for your negative understanding of all single, middle-aged men (for heaven's sakes use a site for that). So while I am certain there are men (and women) out there who are logged on and behaving badly, I believe that women must take responsibility for their own choices. We can maintain our positive expectations while at exactly the same time heeding our inner voice that warns us when something is not quite right. Much too frequently some women are guided not by common sense, but by wishful thinking as well as a want to be pleasant and not seem ill-mannered, so we discount the big, red flashing warning lights raging in our heads and continue without caution. I once met a woman who expressed great depression that she simply could not trust the men she met online. She then continued to tell me a story about one of these men who spent days (yes, days) wooing her via e-mail. He told her stories of his limitless prosperity and his links to powerful individuals all around the world. She slept with him on the second date (after he assured to whisk her off to a private island that next weekend). But that's not all. She also gave him all of her identifying information when he told her that she needed to be checked by "his people." And guess what? Yep! Her identity was stolen. Whining about how she could merely no longer trust men she met online was a bit like whining about how she could merely no longer trust Nigerian princes. Free Hook Ups near Richmond, Victoria.
Tone Down the Boudoir Photos. You say you desire a good man who respects you as a human being and is interested in having a serious relationship with you, then you post pictures of yourself next to your bed (or on your bed, or in your bed, or in someone else's bed). And if you aren't posting photographs of yourself next to your bed, (or on your bed, or in your bed), you're posting pictures with way too much cleavage. Now, that is completely great - I have no issue at all with this, and I am sure many men don't have a problem either - but what some men do have a problem with is when women place said super-hot glamor pictures and then whine to their friends, or make statements on their profiles about how all guys are dogs and only want them for sex. And while we are on the topic of complaint-filled profiles...
Athletic and Toned Means, well, Athletic and Toned. I hate the body descriptors as much as you do (well, except for you size 0 women out there, you most likely love them), but I do think it is important that we at least strive for truthfulness. The word on the street is that way too many women out there in the internet dating world are using the "athletic and toned" descriptor in reference to their "about average" bodies (this complaint applies to guys as well, of course). The thing is, there really is not anything wrong with having an about average (or curvy) body so let us take the pressure off ourselves and heed the guidance of Amy Schuler, and understand once and for all that a little meat on our bones is not going to kill us, and it isn't going to drive away the good guys either (appropriate, good guys?).
No. More. Instagram. Photographs. I really like Instagram photos because many of the filters make my eyes look strikingly blue (or green, or lavender), and some even shave about 10 years off my face. But do I post these photos on my internet dating profile? No I do not. Why? Because my eyes aren't actually that blue (or green or lavender), and I'm about 10 years older than my Instagram photographs would have you believe. This was the number one complaint among the guys I interviewed - artistically filtered (i.e., deceptive) photos. Truth in advertising ladies, truth in advertising. Free hook ups near me Richmond VIC.